Establish your reason
People reject a job offer with their own reasons. Some of them:
Salary expectation, i.e. the employer is unable to meet your expected salary as according to what you have indicated or wished to get. Getting stalled in salary negotiation is possibly the most popular reason people abandon their job offer
Another job offer. Another offer from another company comes up and between the rock and the hard place, you have a choice to make. For certain things, you cannot have two at the same time. So one must go.
Terms of offer. For example, sometimes, you go for interview under the impression that the job is a permanent. However, when the employer indicates their intention to hire you under a contractual term (either directly with them or through a third party), you are not prepared to take it.
Personal reason. Perhaps, you find out something about the supervisor which is not to your liking, or notice there is someone in the team where you are not having a good term with. By now you should know that working with someone you hate is detrimental professionally, mentally, and sometimes…physically.
You are testing the market. You’re not really active looking for job but somehow your itchiness defeats you and makes you jump into the job seekeing pool. Sometimes, you are approached by a head hunter, and you want to be taken a ride.
But establishing your reason here does not mean preparing an absolute answer to the employer. For example, if you’re telling theemployer you’re not accepting the offer because you’re just assessing your market value, you are certain to invoke the wrath of the employer you rejected.
As a result, you will perhaps be cursed to no end for wasting their time in the first place. To be on the save side, suffice for you to say that “after considering all the options and evaluating the offer from many aspects, I decided not to pursue with this offer.”
Choose your weapon
To reject your job offer courteously, some say write a reject letter. But just like what Monica told Chandler in the Friends popular sitcom, “you don’t need to do everything Dr. Phil tells you to do.” In straight forward term, convey your rejection in the most convenient way as you think. The best method probably means telling them off over the phone, and a follow through via email. The first (phone) indicates your decision to turn down the offer, while the latter affirms you decision, and make your decision official in a documented manner.
Writing a formal letter is not a compulsory requirement, but it is not wrong either. It is a gesture of adding an extra spice of courtesy. So, if you’re thinking to write one, by all means, do so. And do it tactfully.
It is better to reject a job offer than leaving a job too soon
Never think that by declining your job offer, you’re burning the bridges with the prospective employer. Like said before, be smart and be sensible by thinking long term. Think about this. You accept a job offer of which you’re not sure of, then come a month later, you realize that the job or the organization is not for you. You tender your resignation. Who wins? None. Both of you are in the losing end. Theemployer lost their precious resources through the hiring cost and training, and you smear your own name for making too hasty a decision. So do not feel that by rejecting a job offer, you are becoming a devil. Things could be worse if you decide to take the offer which is not yours in the writing. For the best of interest, make a wise move.
1. Alirkan stress, jangan simpan di fikiran anda. Jika anda lawan stress, anda akan dapat lebih banyak stress. Bina ketenangan, kebahagiaan dan keseronokan, bukan “lawan stress”. Stress akan menarik lebih banyak stress, ketenangan akan menarik lebih banyak ketenangan. Alirkan stress dengan melakukan sesuatu. Contohnya memasak, menjahit, menonton wayang, menonton tv, menyapu, mengemas rumah atau membaca buku atau majalah. Sibukkan diri. Elak untuk mengingati perkara-perkara yang membuat anda berasa stress ketika anda melakukan kesemua aktiviti-aktiviti tersebut.
*jadi aku perlu alirkan kpd google chrome..tp pc lem..jd ak perlu alirkan dgn menuju ke pastry..ok2 gud idea*
2. Stress berpunca dari rasa tertekan sebab anda dilanda masalah. Ia mungkin masalah tidak cukup masa, tidak cukup duit, mungkin berlaku dugaan di luar jangkaan atau mungkin anda mahu sesuatu terhasil ikut kemahuan anda tetapi tidak menjadi-jadi. Untuk mengatasi stress, fokus pada penyelesaian. Selesaikan situasi yang anda lalui. Kebanyakan wanita mengalami stress kerana terlalu memikir masalah, bukan bertindak menyelesaikan masalah.
*memikirkan--> mslh cinta, mslh duit nk shopping tiap2 bulan, mslh berangan nak pakai iphone..owh patutlah*
3. Jangan pandang belakang. Maksudnya, apa yang sudah berlalu biarkan berlalu. Usah di ingatkan lagi. Hidup anda majukan ia ke depan, bukan ke belakang. Tidak perlu ingat lagi perkara yang sudah berlalu. Kesilapan yang sudah berlaku tidak perlu diingat selalukan. Jangan ingat dan jangan fikir walau sekejap pun. Maafkan diri anda kerana terbuat kesilapan. Selepas memaafkan diri sendiri, timbul rasa bersemangat. Anda dapat mengatasi stress dengan cara ini.
*jgn pndg blkg mak kiah! hah yg ni kena thn lg dua bln j..sbr2*
4. Dekatkan diri dengan seseorang yang memahami anda dan memberi semangat pada anda. Kurangkan bergaul dengan orang yang hanya tahu mengkritik perbuatan anda. Sebagai contoh, jika anda kurang bersemangat, jangan meluah masalah pada orang yang hanya tahu mentertawakan anda. Sebaliknya cari kawan yang sudi mendengar luahan hati anda. Luahkan masala anda kesemuanya, ceritakan padanya semua perkara yang menganggu fikiran anda. Wanita biasanya suka bercerita dari hati ke hati, namun anda perlu waspada kerana kawan anda meluah tu boleh mengumpat hal anda di belakang anda. Kadang-kadang dia akan mentertawakan anda tanpa anda ketahui. Anda perlu bijak menilai kawan. Biar ada kawan seorang yang memahami anda dengan ikhlas, daripada berkawan seribu tetapi membuat fikiran anda haru-biru.
*aceh mame ye ummi Iki & Nur Amani..nanges jap*
